After interviewing several couples therapists, Eleanor Stanford has put together a list of 13 important questions to discuss with your partner before you get married. The questions are important and are topics couples often avoid in order to stay peaceful and happy. The article is intelligent and humorous. I personally think humor helps marriages. The list of questions include things like:
1. Did your family throw plates, calmly discuss issues or silently shut down when disagreements arose?
2. Will we have children, and if we do, will you change diapers?
3. Will our experiences with our exes help or hinder us?
4. How important is religion? How will we celebrate religious holidays, if at all?
5. Is my debt your debt (assuming there is debt)? Would you be willing to bail me out?
6. What’s the most you would be willing to spend on a car, a couch, shoes?
7. Can you deal with my doing things without you?
8. Do we like each other’s parents?
9. How important is sex to you?
10. How far should we take flirting with other people? Is watching pornography O.K.?
11. Do you know all the ways I say “I love you”?
12. What do you admire about me, and what are your pet peeves?
13. How do you see us 10 years from now?
Read more…http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2016/03/23/fashion/weddings/marriage-questions.html?em_pos=large&emc=edit_nn_20160331&nl=morning-briefing&nlid=70588104