Parents usually would like their children to grow up to be friends. This is a doable task and it takes some practice.
Here are some ways to nurture your kids’ bond.
1. Recognize them each as individuals, encouraging their differences and individual likes and dislikes.
2. Speak positively, and don’t compare them.
3. Don’t play favorites. Nothing will make them dislike each other more than competing for attention and knowing it’s a competition they can’t win.
4. Help them to resolve disputes, and avoid taking sides in their tiffs.
5. Help them learn to communicate well. Sometimes one might have to ask the other to play. They forget that their brother or sister isn’t a mind reader.
6. Be clear on your family rules and expectations. If no name-calling is your rule, don’t allow it. If you’re trying to foster respect, teach the characteristics of respect and do not tolerate mistreatment.
7. Encourage them to be affectionate and appreciate of one another. Many parents encourage their children to give each other hugs and say, “I love you!” before bed. You can remind them that they will be best friends forever.