An interesting list of 13 ‘signs’ that your partner might be cheating on you”
- Time-stamping: Optimizing precious moments with a lover is a balancing act, so he’s counting minutes. “It won’t raise any red flags if I’m home by 6:00 p.m. on the dot,” he rationalizes. Or, “If I call her every day at noon, she won’t get suspicious.” He’s drawing timelines in the sand — and being uncharacteristically prompt or oddly ritualized with his schedule may be one way he does that.
- New lingo: A friend of mine’s suspicions grew when he heard his wife irritably yell, “xyz”, an expression neither one of them had ever used. If she’s spending enough time with her lover, she’s sure to pick up some of his/her expressions.
- Changing things up: Every evening he used to come home, ask about dinner and walks the dog. Now, that ritual is being messed with. He needs a shower as soon as he walks in the door.
- Driving alone: Typically, you’d hop in the car together and be on your way. But recently she finds a myriad of reasons to have a few minutes alone — and a need to take her own car. “I have to stop at Sephora, and I don’t want to bore you!” she says. Time and again.
- Wearing a lampshade: Having an affair can make people feel young and impulsive again and that can spill over into other behaviors.
- Wanting you to strut your stuff: What’s this? A little something from Vicky’s Secret just for you? Funny, he’s always claimed that lingerie doesn’t do much for him. His affair has reawakened his libido and, ironically, he’d like it to do the same for you.
- You’re clearly up to no good: You smile at the waiter, and he goes off. He knows you’re a friendly sort — didn’t he always love that about you? — but recently that innocent cordiality seems to antagonize him in ways it never did. Now that he’s having an affair, he knows it’s not so far-fetched that you might, too.
- No harm in looking, right?: “Did you see our cute neighbor checking out your butt?” she asks with a big smile. “That flight attendant is really your type!” she teases, leaving you wondering what happened to her jealous streak.
- Defensiveness: You sadly report your best friend’s husband is cheating. Instead of sharing your dismay, he becomes defensive. “Well, he hasn’t been happy in that marriage.” .
- Won’t watch it: Fatal Attraction? Derailed? The Affair? Forget it. Plot lines that would have formerly piqued her interest now make her visibly uncomfortable.
- All nerves: Many folks experience atypical bouts of depression and anxiety as the guilt of the affair
- Suddenly an expert: She starts spewing facts about things she’s never shown interest in before.
- Signature blank stare: